Knowing yourself well to achieve your full potential

Choose and know each other to free yourself and realize yourself....
Choose yourself:

Choosing oneself is first of all welcoming, accepting, loving, respecting, making decisions and taking action for oneself and from oneself, not perfectly, but as we can today, at our own pace, with all the ups and downs that this entails.

Every day, we have many opportunities to choose ourselves, to say yes when we think yes, and no when we think no. You can decide to eat well, exercise, end an unsatisfactory relationship, rest, take action, etc. The list is endless. On the other hand, there is a prerequisite to be able to choose oneself and decide to act to create a better life for oneself.


Self-knowledge: to start from yourself, you have to know yourself

"WHO BETTER THAN YOU KNOWS YOUR NEEDS? GETTING TO KNOW EACH OTHER IS THE FIRST THING TO DO..."
- JEANS OF THE FOUNTAIN


To know yourself is to know what is good or bad for me, to know my needs, my fears, my strengths and my difficulties.

To know each other:
To know ourselves is to know what is good or bad for us, to know our needs, our fears, our strengths and our difficulties. It means having an adjusted vision of the person we are, it means loving and assuming ourselves with our strengths and difficulties. It also means being aware of how we operate in the present moment. That is, to have a good relationship with oneself, which allows us to take care of ourselves in a healthy way and to be more free.

"HOW CAN YOU GET TO KNOW YOURSELF? BY MEDITATION, NEVER, BUT BY ACTION. »
- GANDHI



I have experienced it at the dawn of significant changes in my life and I observe it repeatedly in my therapist's office. We look with our heads to know what is good for us, what we like or not, what we should do more to be happy and what we should eliminate from our lives. Unfortunately, that's not how it works, at least not totally.

Self-knowledge is not only a rational process, self-knowledge requires listening to our emotional world. As I have already mentioned in my article on emotions, it is by listening to our emotional experience in the present moment that we are able to raise awareness and contact our needs, our limits, and our fears. It is through this awareness that we will take power over our lives by acting to meet our needs, set our limits and face our fears, which is the very definition of self-realization.

It is when I make the effort to go swimming in the municipal pool that I can know if it is a pleasant and rewarding experience or if it is not satisfactory. It is by feeling the full range of emotions that inhabit me at work, in relationships, in hobbies and everywhere else that I will be able to move towards what I want and away from what I don't want.



Self-knowledge in therapy

Self-knowledge is one of the first fruits of therapy with a TRA, a therapist in a helping relationship who works with the ANDC. Through the therapist's observations and sensitive reflections in the present moment of the relationship, the client may be more aware of his or her emotions, needs, limitations, resources, strengths and difficulties. He can then open himself to welcome and accept what dwells within him so that he can choose and transform himself starting from what he is, and not by relying on the outside to do so.


To free oneself and to realize oneself:
By being more in touch with ourselves, we are also more aware of the self-destructive behaviours that pull us down. When we consider ourselves too sensitive, too intense, not strong enough, or too weak, we devalue ourselves and inferiorize ourselves. Awareness is the first step in changing our behaviour, the more conscious we are, the more we can accept ourselves and offer ourselves gentleness instead of criticism and judgment.

We are then more free to be authentic, to create a life in our image and to exploit our full potential.


"YOU HAVE TO ACCEPT LIFE AS IT IS, BUT YOU SHOULD TRY TO MAKE IT AS YOU WOULD LIKE IT TO BE"
- GERMAN PROVERB


Where I come from, knowing yourself is also about doing with who I am, and doing with my past, Where I come from, knowing yourself is also about doing with who I am, and doing with my past, where I come from.

My personal example, to do with my experience and what I am.
Early in my life I experienced difficult events that left important traces in me. I have suffered a lot. These events had a negative impact on me, the suffering caused leaks and behaviours that then caused even more suffering.
However, suffering and difficulties are not the only things I have learned from these events. I have also become a man who is sensitive to the suffering of others, sensitive to difficulties, sensitive to leaks and to behaviours that run counter to our needs. These events also gave me an impulse to help people who are unhappy and who need to make changes in their lives.

From that, I have managed to create a job that looks and feels like me, to surround myself with people who have the same values as me, to have a healthy love relationship where I have every right to be who I am, etc.



"YOU SHOULD TRY TO BE HAPPY, IF ONLY TO SET AN EXAMPLE. »
- JACQUES PREVERT



The work is not finished and it will never be, day after day, I continue to listen to my dissatisfactions, fears, lacks and needs and adapt my life to make it more satisfying.
I am passionate about personal development because I have experienced from the inside the possible changes when you commit to yourself and when you put yourself in #1.



"WHAT MATTERS IS NOT TO ARRIVE, BUT TO GO TOWARDS. »
- ANTOINE DE SAINT-EXUPÉRY


In conclusion:
Choosing and knowing oneself to realize oneself is the path of life, a process in perpetual restart that brings a lot of satisfaction.
We can be professionally happy and ill in our bodies. Happy in love and lacking in friendship. The important thing is always to come to yourself and listen to yourself. What are my dissatisfactions? What are my needs? What are my gaps? How can I work to fill them?



"THERE'S NOTHING IN THE WORLD LIKE TURNING AWAY FROM WHAT YOU LOVE."
- ALBERT CAMUS